It’s hardly the case that such a phrase will help a person that came to you for advice or just came to you to get something off his or chest (in such a case, hugs are a much more effective remedy).
“Everything will be okay” marks some kind of undefined point, an incomprehensible theory, according to which it’s not clear what, when and under what circumstances everything will become “okay,”, and how “okay” should be measured in the first place.
What I hate the most is limiting my choices.
Any restrictions provoke a sense of fear and despair. It is vital for me to feel that I have alternatives or the possibility to retreat. To feel empowered to influence the course of my own life, not just to obey what my current circumstances dictate.
When people used to ask me whether I’m able to do something (such as drawing or mixing cocktails, i.e. things I’ve never tried before) I always was given a strong, negative response:
“No, I can’t.”
In this way, I was limiting my own capabilities without even realizing it. And this was a big mistake…
Do any of you believe in reincarnation?
Because I rather often have the feeling of déjà-vu. I have dreams of places I’ve never been to and am often suprised by parallels with the lives of people who have died long before.
I like to experiment with myself. Most often by not allowing myself something unnecessary. Throughout the last year, I refused to consume something new each month: sweets, junk food, alcohol, coffee.
One of the most memorable conversations of my life took place with a man who was about to commit suicide and changed his mind at the last moment. After that he returned home, he put his most important possessions in his backpack and completely changed his life over the course of the next couple of years.
I am often asked to name my TOP-10 chart of favorite books, which is a rather difficult task because the list would be much longer, and it would be very difficult to choose which book to leave out of this rating.
